Are you growing? Are you putting a focus on personal development? Professional Development? Spiritual Development? We’ve all been there and are all still there. Tony Robbins says “If you’re not growing, you’re dying.” On that note, I hope we’re all growing!
I was recently sitting with a buddy and talking; for the sake of this story, let’s call said friend Fred. Fred is putting all of his focus into his growth currently, he teaches me more every single day! We were discussing a situation he is dealing with. The situation is that he loves this girl that he has been off-and-on with for sometime. This girl is also going through her own personal growth at the moment. Fred was there for her as support but wasn’t receiving the same support in return. We’re not putting any blame anywhere; she may be putting so much of herself into growth that she had no focus to spare. Fred knew that to allow both of them to grow, he had to break ties with her for the time being.
“If you love something, set it free and see if it comes back around.” Fred was scared and rightfully so. Fred truly cares for her and it was the toughest and most challenging decision he had to make. We were discussing the two of them each going there own way and seeing what happens from there. Maybe they’ll grow back together at some point down the road. On that note, he mentioned that he cannot be attached to that outcome, the outcome that they may come back together at some point. We then discussed the key to growth in any facet is to grow without having attachments. Having faith that things will work out the way that they’re meant to and not being tied to any particular outcome. If they end up growing back together, if they become friends, or even if they don’t have any relationship in the future.
Let’s take a look at professional development. If you are growing professionally (as we always should be), putting in the time to do the best work that you can do, learning new things (be it about leadership style, products, marketing, etc.), what is your intention? If you are developing with the end goal being more money, then that love for money is going to skew your growth. You may achieve more money but you may be miserable through the process, and once you have it.
Money is not the root of all evil. However, the love of money (greed) is.
If you grow for the sole intent of growth, of bettering yourself, then you will grow into your true self. Professionally, this may translate to a promotion, to owning your own business or many other things. With this growth may come more money but growing without the attachment to money is transcendental.
There is the key to many things, having no attachments. Trees grow freely, the way they are meant to be, except when they don’t. When a tree is in an urban environemnt or planted, someone may have attached ropes or cables to it to make it grow a particular way. The tree may be beautiful and may grow away from obstacles, but it’s not it’s true self. We need those obstacles and our freedom to grow with no attachments in hopes of reaching our full potential, our defining moments and our true self.
I’ve done a lot of growing throughout my life, both with and without attachments. Whenever I have an attachment I have noticed that I feel off, not complete. When I have not attachments, I grow as I am meant to grow. I feel more on, energized and whole.
You may have felt it already. You may feel it soon. The world is going through an awakening. We all are growing and it is beautiful. Are you looking to the future? Do you have attachments to an outcome? Or are you living in the moment and enjoying everything that comes your way on it’s own accord?
This is a organic topic and always developing. More to come as it comes to me.
What are your thoughts an philosophies on growth?
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